This post is inspired by a JenAndMen reader, who I’ll call Michelle, who wrote me the following message:
|I’m going through a divorce and all my friends are married with kids. Can I just go to a bar by myself? Is that Lame Sauce or A-OK? Love your blog!|
This is a really great topic to debate about: Is it okay to go to a bar alone? I’m going to say “No” — and not just because of the lameness factor. I have compiled a list because (a) it’s easy to read and (b) it’s really fun for me to both compile lists and use the word “compile” on a daily basis.
1. Bars are filled with horny, possibly crazy people…who now have access to alcohol. I honestly just don’t think it’s safe for a chick to go to a bar all by her lonesome. I mean, if the night goes really well, and you end up meeting a guy, who’s going to be able to tell the sketch artist what he looked like if you should suddenly go missing when he walks you to your car?
2. Who’s gonna distract the ugly friends? It’s also good to a have a wing-woman with you — someone to keep the gross friend or friends busy while you mack it to the guy you like. Guys think having a wingman is where it’s at. They haven’t met me as a wing-woman, yet.
3. You look really anti-social. I know the first thought that comes to your mind when considering going to a bar alone is “Do I look like a loser?” It’s not really the “loser” thing I’d be worried about, as much as the question that will immediately rise in a stranger’s head — “Is she so insane that she doesn’t have one friend?” And, if you start the shhhpiel about being the only single woman left in your circle of friends, they’ll be running away before you even get the chance to say you’re cool with it.
4. Guys will most likely assume you’re a huge slut. Unfortunately — and I am in NO WAY saying *I* feel this way — if a girl walks into a bar alone and orders a drink, guys will think that she is either (a) a whore who’s just looking to have sex or (b) an actual whore who’s looking to be paid for having sex.
Those are my thoughts on going to a bar alone. Michelle, if I were you, I’d beg or blackmail one of my girlfriends into coming with me. Just because they’re married, doesn’t mean they can’t have a cocktail with a girlfriend in need. Haven’t they ever seen Sex & the City?
Do you think it’s okay for a chick to go to a bar alone?