To All The Guys Who Come Crawling Back: All I Hear Is “I Tried To Find Someone Better Than You & Failed”

I’m getting really tired of my exes asking me if we can give it another go. Let’s get this straight: You treated me like dirt, allowed me to end it with you, looked around for a girl who you thought would be equal to my looks, personality, intelligence, passion, and TOLERANCE FOR YOU, and were shocked when you couldn’t find said imaginary girl? And, on top of all that, you actually believed I would take you back?

I almost pity these guys. But I don’t. Because I hate them too much.

Last month I had one of my exes message me on Facebook.

“I want to take you out on a date. It’s been a whole year and I think that it would be great…I want it to be great. If Penny and Leonard can do it, so should we. It would be nice to make up where I messed up the first time.”

I told him it was a cute Big Bang Theory reference and then declined. “Messed up the first time.” Hmm, like when you told me you were in love with me during a very vulnerable time in my life and then made me feel worthless and cry every single day? Yeah. Messing up is spelling a word wrong. White-out isn’t fixing this “mess”.

He’s not the first one to do this, either. Time and time again, guys I’ve left come crawling back, asking for a second chance. The funny part is…it’s not a second chance I’d be giving them. It’s a 52nd chance. Because I give these idiots chance after chance to redeem themselves and leave when I see no more hope for the relationship or my happiness with them. When I leave, I leave; and I don’t think they fully understand this.

Have your exes ever come crawling back?

3 thoughts on “To All The Guys Who Come Crawling Back: All I Hear Is “I Tried To Find Someone Better Than You & Failed”

  1. I little about myself: I am a man, and I do not date. My reasons for not are varied but mostly out of a moral sense of conduct and an abiding belief that it is not a proper way to establish a lifetime partnership. That being said, I have dated in the past and had two partners suggest a fresh start. I find this happens less frequently and after farther stretches of time for girls. This, I believe is because A: men are expected to innitiate these sorts of things. And B: Women are more likely to consider more viable, responsible partners later in life when career and “fun” have been established and had and the idea of a family is more on the table.
    To that end, I feel like guys are quick to jump to the next sexual conquest with little or no thought about the future and the risks such behavior poses. Girls, seem tied to an abiding belief in the Prince Charming archetype, the handsome, rich, masculine, yet sensitive perfection that they have been promised since childhood.
    What this leads to is a a slew of disappointed boys who have found thier charms less than they thought, or found most beastly things where they wrongly sought beauty.
    Women, grow to find that there is no Mr. Right, only right for you. And upon meeting Charming, realize that their Shrek was a better choice.
    The point is, people oft come to this realization of the one that got away. If you’re on the receiving end of a return caller, one should ask themselves, whether the heart still holds love for this person and if there’s truly been a change. If not, and if this truly is the 53rd time they ask, kick em to the curb!

  2. This has happened to me several times too. I tell them to take a hike and immediately cut off all communication. If it didn’t work out before, it isn’t going to now and why should I waste any more of my time.

  3. Buffy: It’s so true. I think it’s just nice to think that people can change, but ultimately they can’t and most likely haven’t.

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