If you’ve ever been in love — or at the very least happy with someone — you can attest to the fact that the person you’re with can affect your entire mood. A fight can make your day miserable and making up can chase that black cloud away immediately.
I guess the real question is, How can someone that makes you feel so great also make you feel so horrible? They can make you feel like you’ve finally got it right; you’re not alone, weird, destined to die by yourself. Then, in the drop of a hat, something they say can make you feel all those things ten-fold, because you thought you had found the person you were meant to be with, and now you’re second-guessing them, the relationship, and yourself.
I guess if you didn’t really care about the person you wouldn’t be angry or hurt or sad over a fight with them. Hell, you might not even care enough to fight with them in the first place. So I guess feeling sad over them means you care for them. But at what cost? If this is an everyday occurrence then maybe the misery you’re enduring is outweighing the joy they make you feel when you’re not fighting.
My friend Joe and I were talking about this fickle girl he used to date. He said how a “Good morning :)” text from her would make his entire morning, but one odd or indifferent statement would affect his mood, his focus, and, inevitably, his work.
People would tell him he looked and acted differently and, even though he could see it, he couldn’t stop allowing her to affect him. She made him feel so good when they were together that he was willing to suffer through the heartache when she acted like a jerk to him. It was unhealthy and it wasn’t until he ended it with her that he was finally restored to his old self.
Have you ever let someone you were seeing make or break your day?