“Do you think you’ll ever be exclusive with him?” I asked.
“Honestly, probably not,” Cindy said, shrugging. “He has some issues that I’m not comfortable with and, to be honest, I’ve been down that road before in past relationships and the guy never changed for me no matter how hard I tried to help him. I’m not going into a relationship knowing that I have to fix you. I’m sorry.”
Truer words were never spoken. How often do we go into relationships (and even marriages) thinking the person will change, yet we’re shocked when they don’t?
Think of it this way: They didn’t change for their mother, they’re not going to change for you. (And I say “mother” and not “themselves” because I assume the idiots are happy the way they are.)
If they drink too much, party too much, still live at home, have shady friends, don’t have a job or have a juvenile job, those things aren’t going to be fixed overnight. And more often than not even if they’re “fixed”, the guy can slip right back into his old ways at any moment. And then where are you left?
Have you ever avoided going out with someone because you were uncomfortable with some of their issues and didn’t want to have to deal with them?