Confidence is a Virtue, Not A Vice

I usually get attacked or criticized for being my usual confident self. But, the thing is, I’m not really sure why everyone has such a problem with confidence. When I meet someone who is happy with how they look or who they are, I take an instant liking to them.

Some of my readers left comments inquiring whether or not I get angry when negativity and anger is aimed at me. The answer to that question is “no.” My mother always told me that when someone is trying to pick a fight with me, I should walk the other way.

In this case, I simply click the other way. Because there are always going to be people who dislike you and there are always going to be people who don’t necessarily dislike you, but they have such self-loathing that they project their hatred onto you because…you’re there.

This, my friends and frenemies, should never hinder your confidence. Lady Gaga bans ice from her concerts because she’s afraid crazed people will throw it at her. Does she stop her career? No! She gets crazier! I relate to her oh so much, fans ;)

I find this exact confidence to be an insanely attractive quality on both a guy and a girl (hmm, maybe that’s why I love myself so much? ;)). I’m not saying someone has to kiss their mirror or anything, but it’s nice to see someone who appreciates and takes care of themselves.

I would take someone constantly speaking highly of themselves over someone always complaining about the way they look, eat, suck, any day of the week.

The fact that the word confidence is so often substituted for a different, less positive word – cockiness – is baffling to me. If you look good in a new dress or hair cut, is it so wrong to say so? According to most people it is.

But tell me, why is complimenting a new car considered to be different and more acceptable?

Look, I’ve been on the other side of the railroad tracks. I have the mild scoliosis to prove it. I have to work on holding my back as straight up as my personality would suggest it should be every day. I know what it was like to feel like an outcast and uncool and unpretty.

But one day you just have to snap out of it, and instead of hating on yourself and everyone who you consider to be better than you, work on fixing your confidence level. Smile a little more, walk in the sun, treat yourself to a spa treatment and an ice cream cone. You will feel better about yourself, your life, and those in it (personally and virtually). Remember, me being pretty and confident does not make you feel bad about yourself – that is all on you, my friend.

Do you view confidence as cockiness? Why or why not?

3 thoughts on “Confidence is a Virtue, Not A Vice

  1. I would like to think I view cockiness as cockiness and confidence as its own seperate thing.

    People should be proud of themselves, appreciate when they look or feel good and feel free to say so. I don’t think that is the same as cockiness. Cockiness isn’t internal it is external.

    A confident person walks into a bar and thinks, “I look good.” A cocky person walks into the same bar and thinks, ” I look good… better than her and her and eww look at that cow what is she even doing here.”

    Cocky is dependant on others being less than… confident is about being secure in your self.

  2. By far my FAVORITE post!! I agree 100% percent with you!! We all have our days where we feel down or sad about ourselves whether it be a bad hair day, a zit, or just the fact we downed an entire tub of ice cream in one sitting. Part of being human is sometimes having insecurities, but not enough to stop life in its tracks. Confidence is contagious and definitely makes a person stand out and be more beautiful. I have dated a lot of good looking guys and the ones that were confident looked even better one I got to know them well. The cocky ones? Well, let’s just say they went from 10’s to 0’s very quickly. Confidence is hot and its okay to compliment yourself…and even compliment another woman! That’s the ultimate sign of confidence and self-assurance. These other chicks that are cocky? They are ugly on the inside and it shows…..

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