I have already admitted that I love guys that I can’t have in Wanting What You Can’t Have: I Love Guys In Relationships. I will now discuss the girls who also feel this way but listen to that devil on their shoulder. We call those girls whores. Sorry. We call them…home-wreckers? Yes, home-wreckers sounds nicer.
A JenAndMen reader named Kimberly wrote me the following comment today:
What pisses me off is when girls are ALLLL over a guy who they KNOW is dating someone else. My favorite? Co-workers. My bf has a co-worker who just would NOT hop off! She would always bbm him late at night sobbing about her love life and how so and so broke up with her. He would not feed into it and blew her off and she did NOT get the picture. Then, the ultimate fucking low was when she asked him on a weeknight to “Go out for drinks.” I mean, really? He totally blew her off and was like “No, I’m pretty tired” and she has backed off but WTF????!!!
The home-wrecking hussy (yes, that’s the perfect name) that Kimberly is talking about is someone who just doesn’t know when to stop. She takes her “I want what I can’t have” outlook and takes it a step too far: By trying to get what she can’t have. Look Angelina Jolie, I get that this guy is hot and I get that he’s nice enough to listen to you whine but he has a girlfriend and you need to respect that by not text messaging him and asking him out on a date (no matter what you call it).
I have no sympathy for these girls because they’re essentially me without the self-control. I know it’s fun to imagine pulling his girlfriend/wife’s hair, kicking her in the shins, and stealing her man (or is that just fun for me to imagine), but the fact of the matter is: You can’t. He’s taken. There’s a certain order to things. Just because Hollywood has everything ass-backwards doesn’t mean we should, too. You wouldn’t like it if someone stole your boyfriend, would you? So stop trying, already!