Normally I’m not too devastated when I hear that a Hollywood couple has broken up. It’s more like “Oh, yeah, I could have told you that” or “Saw that one comin'”. Every once in a while, though, I get genuinely sad when I hear that a famous couple has broken up. I felt this way about Jennifer Anniston and Brad Pitt (homewrecker!), Jennifer Lopez and Puffy (and then Marc Anthony), Courtney Cox and David Arquette, Sarah Jessica Parker and Matthew Broderick (No, they didn’t break up – but he cheated on her and NO ONE cheats on Carrie Bradshaw…not even Ferris Bueller).
My latest devastation? Heidi Klum and Seal are getting divorced. I was upset about this for two reasons: (1) I truly believed they were in love and were going to be one of the few to make it and (2) I’ve always admired their marriage because it’s not based on looks (not for her, anyway).
When I first heard that the famous Victoria’s Secret supermodel was married to a guy named “Seal,” I immediately Googled him.
Noooo wayyyy, I thought as I saw photos of a guy with holes all over his face. Then I saw photos of him with her, and then with their children. At first I couldn’t understand how someone so beautiful could fall in love with someone so not-beautiful. Then I saw how happy they were in all their photos and interviews, and I understood. It was one of the first times I had really seen that beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and I felt like their marriage was so much more legitimate because of that.
Now that I found out they’re getting a divorce because they “grew apart,” I’m re-thinking a lot. Similar to how grown children (sounds like an oxymoron, haha) feel when their seemingly loving parents get a divorce after decades of marriage, I feel a little bit scarred. I really thought that that was one couple that would stay together (besides my own parents, that is), and now that Heidi and Seal are splitting, I’m not feeling too great about marriage at the moment.
The last time I was this upset over a breakup, it was when one of my best friends broke up with her long-time boyfriend. I truly grew to care for the guy and, when I found out she had left him for someone else, I literally felt like I had broken up with someone. I never saw or contacted him again, because I didn’t want to hurt him even more by reminding him that he wasn’t in or group of friends anymore. I haven’t seen him in years, and I’m still pretty upset over that breakup.
Has someone else’s breakup ever affected you negatively?