When you’re on an online dating site (or even if you’re not), you’re clearly going to be dating multiple people. If a girl tells a guy, “Hey, it’s hard to talk on here. Why don’t you take my number,” then she most likely has also said that to 5 other guys that day. I’m not saying she doesn’t like you, I’m just saying you’re not the only one she likes.
If you’re on a site like Plenty of Fish or OKCupid, it usually means that you’re serious about finding a relationship (or, at the very least, someone you’re compatible with and like hang out with). Therefore, what would be the point of seeing a cute guy/girl, sending two or three messages back and forth, exchanging phone numbers, and ignoring the other 400 messages in your inbox?
A company doesn’t hire the very first candidate they interview, even if the person seems qualified. It’s standard practice to shop around, if you will, and see who you like best. You may end up going back to that very first person (I’m talking about both scenarios, now), or you may find someone that better fits what you’re looking for.
I, personally, used to tell guys to “make sure to put [their] name in the text message, because I give out a lot of business cards.” That was only half a lie (I do give out a lot of business cards, they don’t have my phone number on them). I started saying this because when I’d ask who I was talking to (a lot of stupid people will just text you “Hey”), guys would say, “Well, I guess I’m not the only one you gave your number to today.” Ding ding ding, we have a winner. What do you think you’re King of POF? Get over yourself, I’m weeding out the frogs here dude.
Now, getting to the point of this blog post, the same goes for actually going out on dates with these people. Naturally, you’re going to meet them in person and go to a restaurant (or wherever you meet them) and see how you feel about them face-to-face. Are they good-looking? Are they witty? Are they funny? Are they compatible? Are they awkward? Are they strange? People can sound real great on paper (or, in this case, on a computer/phone screen), and can turn out to be crazy weird (or just plain ol’ crazy) once you meet them.
If you’re talking to multiple people, you’re obviously going to go on multiple dates a week. (Hell, I used to go on multiple dates a day). This is fine. Time-consuming and a bit tiring, but fine. There is one golden rule that must always be followed at all times though: Never tell the guy/girl you’re dating that you are also dating other people. See: *Of Course* You Always Lie About Dating Multiple People! for more details on this topic.