I know I misspelled “douche” — but I wanted everyone to read it the right way right off the bat. You may think the title is a bit extreme — but I can’t help getting so annoyed at cheap people. And don’t be confused: “Poor” is not “cheap.” If you’re poor, you’re poor. Those were the cards you were dealt. But cheapness? Ugh, it’s one of the most unattractive qualities.
Girls like to feel special. As much as we’ll fight to have our independence, we secretly like to be taken care of sometimes, too. So when a guy says, “Hey, mind if we split the bill?” or “Let’s just go to Applebees because it’s cheaper than a real steakhouse,” we tend to get a little annoyed.
As I’ve said before, girls spend a lot of much money on their everyday appearance. We have to buy adorable outfits and shoes, get our hair done (or spend money on expensive hair products even when we do it ourselves), get our nails done, get wax ripped off of us in unfavorable places, etc, etc. Not to mention the whole child-bearing thing. (Yeah, I went there.) After dropping 50+ dollars on a date before I even get picked up, do you honestly mean to tell me that you’re going to ask me to go freaking Dutch right now?
And that’s another thing I was questioning — Are the Dutch stupid? What’s up with them making women pay for their own dinner? I Googled it and Wikipedia said that there’s two possible orgins for the term “Going Dutch.” One is that a Dutch farmhouse door has two equal parts. The other is that Dutch people are known to split the bill evenly when large groups of people go out to dinner. However, “When dating in a one-on-one situation, however, the man will most commonly pay for meals and drinks.” There goes that lame ass excuse, cheapskates.
A JenAndMen reader named Taylor wrote, “One time I went out to eat on a date…The guy picked up the check and said, ‘I got this time, you got next time.’ The sad part is that he was serious. If that’s not cheap I don’t know what is.”
Another JenAndMen reader named Buffy wrote, “Went on a date where the guy bought us each a slice of pizza and ate his slice & mine because he was still hungry & too cheap to buy himself another! I drank a can of sprite :-/”.
I have to say, I have never been serious with a cheap person. Most of my boyfriends were good to me when it came to going out to dinner and buying me gifts (and I was, in return, too — before I’m called a gold-digger lol).
Have you ever dated a cheap guy? How cheap was he?